One Big Happy Family

Do you get along with your ex? Does your ex get along with the person you are with now? Do you get along with the person your ex is with?

Well, 'round here we all get along and party like one big family. It's so wild. LOL My ex and his new, pregnant wife just stopped by for a drink (she didn't drink) after attending the rodeo cookoff. I don't mind chilling with them sometimes, but that ex of mine can take it too far with the friendly. Case in point: Tonight he recruited my husband to some "old man's" basketball league. Bear says they'll kick him off the team because although he's 38 in years, he's 21 on the court. He honestly thinks the only person who might be able to dunk on him is LeBron James. (I think he's right.:-))

You know, it wasn't always like this. I can remember when my ex and I broke up and he bitched out like he was the baby mama. Everywhere I turned, there he was. On a date? He was at the next table. At a concert? He was 3 seats down. Getting in late from the club? He'd pull into my driveway before I did. Then, after a year or so of me continuing to live my life and doing MY thing, he backed off and we became family. I've went out with all of his wives (this is his third), and my son thrives in such a relaxed and secure environment. A child can't have enough love.

Do I always get my child support on time? HELL NO. But, my son is old enough to get money from his dad and his rich wife at any time and I refuse to sweat the small stuff. We good. (And I'll definitely get my back pay eventually.)

And, no I don't have any problems from my husband's ex wife either. If she lived in Houston, I'm sure we'd be kicking it from time to time too -- that is, if my husband could tolerate her. LOL

What is your extended family situation like? Demi and Bruce? Kimora and Russell? Or do you let grown people b.s. stop you from getting along?

Anthony Hamilton - Cool

I'm feeling this.

Reunited...?

People.com says that Rihanna and Chris Brown are holed up in one of Diddy's cribs in Miami and TMZ has "confirmed" they are back together.

Rihanna and Chris Brown are back together, PEOPLE has learned exclusively.

The pair have reunited almost three weeks after Brown, 19, allegedly battered the "Umbrella" singer on Feb. 8, a source tells PEOPLE. "They're together again. They care for each other," says the source. The on-again couple are currently spending time together at one of Sean "Diddy" Combs's homes, on Miami Beach's Star Island. Adds the source: "While Chris is reflective and saddened about what happened, he is really happy to be with the woman he loves."In its latest issue, PEOPLE reports that Brown called Rihanna on her 21st birthday one week ago. "He called to wish her happy birthday," a source told the magazine. "They've reached out to each other. It's been mutual."

Brown was booked by LAPD for making criminal threats but the case has not yet been presented to the District Attorney, who will ultimately determine which charges, if any, will be prosecuted.

You know what? I aint got time for this ish. If she like it, I love it.

Amber Rose and Kanye...Hope It Lasts!

I don't think I've spoken on this whole Amber Rose + Kanye thing, so let me say it now: I love it! That Amber Rose is one baaaaaaaaaaad, beautiful chic. She just might be the one to persuade Kanye to ditch that mulletfro, too.



...and after reading Necole Bitchie, I realized this:

From "Stronger"
I'm trippin', I'm caught up in the moment right?
'Cause it's Louis Vuitton Don night
So we goin' do everything that Kan like
Heard they'd do anything for a Klondike
Well I'd do anything for a blond Dyke
And she'll do anything for the limelight
And we'll do anything when the time's right
Uh, baby you're makin' it
Harder, better, faster, stronger) oh

If you're going to entertain us, this is the way to do it -- beautiful, free people making good music and giving us wild and crazy visuals. Amber looks like a lot of fun.


I love that she had a girlfriend and chunked old girl the DEUCE when a man with some money and balls came along. lol Hey, it is what it is. DO YOU, Amber!




UPDATE: SandraRose just bought this to my attention: Amber's ex-girlfriend is Tiffany from the DVD The Agressives. I saw the documentary and all I thought about Tiffany was "That girl is mad crazy nasty."

From The Aggressives:
"I'm not a lesbian if I date transgender women and have straight sex with them." Tiffany dates transvestites. She delights in the irony of her unique blurring of labels. We see her as she "vogues", gossips, sells drugs, and cruises drag queens.

I guess Amber Rose likes 'em deranged and in pain.

But I KNOW she aint no drag queen...

What if....??? (bites nails, wonders how I could miss it if she's a man????)

Rap Beef 2009?

What kind of rap beef is this?! I’m supposed to be clicking on a song.



More 50 Cent antics HERE.

Don't Worry, Be Happy

Remember that sunshiny song by Bobby McFerrin a looong time ago? I didn't really like it then because it was so nice and chipper, lol, but it's fitting for today's post.



Bobby McFerrin - Don't Worry, Be Happy
by blade2409

Why Worry?

By nature, I'm a worrier, but whenever I start worrying I pause and say, "Wait a minute," (probably out loud), "God doesn't want me to worry! Am I doing the right thing? For the right reasons? Well, then I can just let life do its thing and trust that the results will be just right in the end." I have to confess that the results always end up going the perfect way they should go.

I don't worry about money...for long.
I don't worry about my job...for long.
I don't worry about my health...for long.
I don't worry about what people may say or think of me...for long.
I don't worry about my or my family's future...for long.
I don't worry about my marriage...for long.
I don't worry about my parents...for long.
I don't worry about ANYTHING...past the moment that I reflect on these verses:

Matthew 6:27-29
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don't work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. (NLT)

Proverbs 12:25
Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up. (NLT)

Matthew 6:30
And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith? (NLT)

Philippians 4:6-7
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (NLT)
***Worry replaced by Prayer equals TRUST***

Matthew 6:25
That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life-whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn't life more than food, and your body more than clothing? (NLT)

Matthew 6:31-33
So don't worry about these things, saying, 'What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?' These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (NLT)

1 Peter 5:7
Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

Real talk.

Something amazing happens when I stop worrying about a thing. When I just do the right thing and freely give the issue to God, knowing that He always has my very best interests at heart -- without fail that issue works itself out, or I instantly see how it is going to work out. I'm telling y'all - faith and belief are powerful things.

Really, don't worry! There's so much else you could be doing with that time and brain power.

Racism in America, Cartoon Style

What more, really, is there to say? This is so on point that it's baffling in its simplicity.

Spotted at RealTalk NY


And while I'm on the subject of cartoons:


Hell yeah, this is racist cartoon. Sure, we know that Obama didn't write the bill and the argument could be made that a bunch of idiots created the Stimulus Bill that Obama signed. If that's the case, why is there only ONE monkey being shot in the cartoon? Why not different sized monkeys representing everyone who wrote the bill?

But even with the obvious racial undertones of the picture, I'm not mad. It's just a cartoon and I'd much rather WE get in an uproar about raggedy school buildings that lack adequate supplies and funding, black on black violence, and issues that relate specifically to and hold Black people down. Eff a cartoon. Go protest police brutality, how blacks are represented on television, Darfur, or anything that will really make a difference. A cartoon protest is an unnecessary waste of valuable activist time.

Click here to read John Legend's editor to the NY Post regarding the cartoon.

Kid Cudi - Day 'N' Nite

I'm in love with this song!



Listen/download whole mixed CD here.

This and That

Paula Dean Loses Her Pants. The even more horrible part is that I think she let 'em drop on purpose. She sure flashed everybody at first. Disturbing on all levels.





Beyonce, Hugh Jackman, etc. Perform at the 81st Academy Awards. Not really my style, but I did like how Beyonce boldly looked in the camera and sang, "At Laaast" like Whatever Etta lol




Xzibit Retracts Statement That Outed Diddy

I read Superhead's book and I clearly remember reading about Puff leading her and Xzibit to what appeared to be a gay club. I found this info quite believable, and Xzibit recently backed up her account of what happened that night on Jamie Foxx's radio show. Now X is saying some other gibberish that really doesn't make much sense. Poor Xzibit; Puffy must have threatened "no more Punk My Rides". (Does that show still come on?)

From Xzibit's blog:

Wow, so I wake up this morning and my phone is going nuts. I turn on the computer and find all this shit about me “throwing puffy under the gay bus” whatever that means. All this SPIN that you journalist are putting on the statements I made on a radio show to DIRECTLY effect a guy in a manor not intended is wrong. I got a call yesterday (which caught me off guard) from Diddy himself stating the club was an after hours spot called “space” I believe. The rumor mill that has ground this bullshit out to be the shit storm that it is, is doing so on its own accord. Like I said at the top, I have no beef with Diddy. BUT WAIT… a bigger problem I see is the negative stance these hip hop sites and blog sites are taking when speaking of gay people in general. All I can say to that is: PEOPLE GROW UP! I do NOT like to spread hate and make it a point not to do so, so this is not the way I intended this interview to unfold. You heard it directly from me ladies and gents, Im looking forward to the issues at hand that really mean something to both my fans and Diddys as well: ART & MUSIC.

Whatever. Dude had you in a club with man on man action. You didn't like it and you got out of there. Nothing wrong with that.


Did the First Lady cut her hair? Are we sure it's not just pinned up in the back?



The Obamas hosted their first formal dinner at the White House this past Saturday. More pictures here.

Blessed Sleep

I'm a person who normally goes to bed around 2 am and wakes up at 6 am -- and that's on a good night. I don't suffer from insomnia (give me a pillow anytime, anywhere and I am asleep); I suffer from don't want to miss a thing in life. Like Puffy always says, "You can sleep when you're 6 feet under".

Enter: the ROOT CANAL.

I had a root canal on Thursday and I've been in pain every since. (Sweet Lord, deliver me.) Vicoden, Tylenol 3, Motrin, Advil, and antibiotics have been my best friends. But the only thing I really really want is a good 8 -12 hours of uninterrupted sleep. After I am all healed, I promise myself that I'm going to start going to bed at a decent time like everyone else in my household!

I'm getting better and I'll be back when all is well. But for now...

The Benefits of Sleep

How Sleep Helps the Memory and Learning Process

Importance of Sleep

Rihanna's Domestic Violence Photo

A picture is worth a thousand words, but you won't see Rihanna's beaten face on my site. I can't look at that everytime I come to my page. So sad.

Click HERE to see Rihanna's face after Chris got his IN. [insert veeeery angry face]

Now what? What is the defense for THIS?

Brandy Sings National Anthem

@ the Pistons v Grizzlies NBA game on Marin Luther King day:



A little shaky, but overall she did a good job and looks great. I like Brandy (despite the fake marriage and all that). I hope she gets another television show.

Throwback Brandy...

I Agree 100%...

...with B. Scott!

"A snap/reflex is a single hit." Right. I agree with every word in this video. I'm no Rihanna Stan by a looong shot, but the support for Chris Brown is mind boggling.



Before the beatdown, I was a strong fan of Chris Brown. I will still support him eventually, but a discussion has to be had and wrongs have to be righted! You know, to be honest, if Chris Brown put out some music that I liked I'd listen to it. I'd still support him in that sense, but I do not CONDONE the alleged beatdown he gave Rihanna. I'm angry that the actions of a man, separate and apart from his career, are being swept under the rug by so many women. I can't support R. Kelly because he's a pedophile, but if Chris Brown owned up to this, for good or bad, I'd be able to separate the man from the music. I think.

Working Hard For the Money

For now, I live in some regular apartments. Not gunshot. Not exclusive. Just regular. My apartments are pretty quiet and orderly, but to be sure somebody’s selling crack on the premises. Until recently we had a guard for a few hours per night. He walked the grounds and kept the rift raft out of the parking lots. Sometimes he checked IDs when people didn’t know the gate code, but most times he didn’t; he just opened it.

Our new apartment manager, Babs, is a regular hard working chic from New Orleans who moved here a year before Katrina hit. But no one would think she didn’t arrive in a runaway bus with the Katrinians. Anyway, she’s been working for the complex around 3 years and the owners finally upped her title to that of Manager. She’s taking it seriously, too. Very seriously.

Her first order of business? Hiring 4 Bout It Bout It type security guards. All handsome and fit. (Go Babs). Now, imagine the guards checking IDs of everyone who enters the complex. In the rain. Without a guard shack. It goes something like this: Guard jumps out of his truck, fumbles with umbrella, asks for ID, driver looks at him like he’s crazy, he pleads “This is my job, man”, gets the driver’s license, writes some ish down on a crumpled pad, and sprints back into his truck…until the next car pulls up.

I have a tenant sticker on my car, but the security even checks THAT through and through.

Seems to me that if you don’t provide your guards with shelter and a television, they aren’t supposed to be doing gate guard detail.

Then, once I was a day late paying my rent and Babs had a letter tacked on my door erroneously addressed to “Abdul Penyar” with a totally wrong Amount Due. If course this was on her new pink, flowery, letterhead – with 3 misspellings.

Do you know anyone who takes his/her job too seriously? Are they doing a good job?

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